Sometimes, life is not fair.  

Sometimes, life is not fair.  

Being a teacher has a myriad of ups and downs moments in which we are treated to the joys and jubilation of success, and the heartbreak of loss. Dealing with that grief or loss can and is a journey that we all take differently. There is no right amount of time to deal with grief and loss, or how we react to it, it just takes time and support.

Grief or loss is expressed in many ways and it can affect every part of your life; your emotions, thoughts and behaviour, beliefs, physical health, your sense of self and identity, and your relationships with others. Grief can leave you feeling sad, angry, anxious, shocked, regretful, relieved, overwhelmed, isolated, irritable or numb.

What you can do to help yourself

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
  • Talk to friends and family about how you are feeling, or consider joining a support group.
  • Take care of your physical health. Grieving can be exhausting, so it’s important to eat a healthy diet, exercise and sleep.
  • Manage stress – lighten your load by asking friends, family members or work colleagues to help you with some chores or commitments. Relaxation and gentle exercise can be helpful.
  • Do things you enjoy, even if you don’t really feel like doing them.

Everyone experiences grief or loss differently. Some people may grieve for weeks and months, while others may describe their grief lasting for years. Through the process of grief, however, you begin to create new experiences and habits that work around your loss.

Dealing with and coming to terms with grief or loss is an emotion and pain that can be shared and while trying to balance the feelings of pain and loss while going forward with your everyday life. Give yourself space and time, be honest with your emotions, don’t grieve alone, and don’t lose hope.

Now when Jesus saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, and he began to teach them. He said: 

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”

 

Blessed Edmund Rice

Live Jesus in our Hearts.

Frederick Zarb